Lately I'm discovering the joy of (and cheapness) of sneaking away for an afternoon matinee. My excuse is that I need to keep up with the culture by seeing what everyone else is seeing. And Facebook fan that I am, I had to see the story of how it came to be.
I did have some warning by feminist critics of the misogyny of this movie. Women basically exist in this movie to be screwed. Sorry for my vulgarity but that's how it needs to be said. I understand this is about college boys and they can be single minded on this subject but I have faith in young men and believe that even they do, somewhere in there, have less superficial relationships.
Interestingly enough, I believe it is the movie's protagonist, Mark Zuckerberg, who was the least misogynist character. This despite the fact that according to the story, the whole Facebook thing began when his girlfriend dumps him for being asshole and then he proceeds to be even more of an asshole by saying cruel things about her on his blog.
But Mark Zuckerberg (in the movie anyway) is neither a misogynist nor an asshole. He's a genius with no social skills. There is speculation that he has Asperger's syndrome. Having a son with Asperger's, I saw the familiar signs and all I could feel for the movie character you are supposed to hate was sympathy. The more of a jerk he was, the more I felt badly for him. We think we don't act like assholes because we are good people. We just have learned, through non-verbal and other informal ways how NOT TO ACT like assholes. Some people don't learn that. We are not better than them. We have just learned to lie better.
Even Mark's relationship and eventual betrayal of his only friend Eduardo Saverin is more complicated than it seems. Despite Saverin's loyalty and obvious love of his friend, he was ill prepared to deal with the growth and vision of his friend's project then called "the Facebook" He was out of his element trying to be a business manager with an already outdated textbook business model. Mark tried to warn him "I'm afraid you are going to be left behind". Even under the best of circumstances, you could see that this was not going to end well. These were 20 year old BOYS with no life experience, one of whom, never really understood how to be a friend, despite his longing to have them.