And if you haven't heard of her, you live in another country or you don't spend as much time in your car listening to the radio as I do.
Dr. Laura is judgmental and self-righteous, sometimes downright mean and apparently also a racist. ( Dr. Laura Schlessinger's N Word Rant)
She's also right about some things. Oh dear Lord, not the N word. What was she thinking? Oh I know - she was thinking she can say and do anything because she is so wonderful. Honestly I think that is a big part of her problem. So many people call in and write in to tell her how wonderful she is and what a savior she is, she has come to believe it. It's very dangerous to start believing what complete strangers say about you.
But this is what I think she's right about:
Instead of blaming all your relationship problems on the other person, ask yourself why did you choose that person? Even if they are completely totally evil, insensitive, "controlling", whatever, what is wrong with YOU that you chose that person? Really, believe it or not, that is where you find your power. If it's ALL on the other person than you are a victim and have no power to prevent the same thing from happening again. Contrary to popular opinion, being a victim is NOT a good thing. Own your own crap and you find your power. That's the part that Dr. Laura does not explain as well.
Everyone talks about how bad, stupid, controlling, abusive, deadbeat, men are, but women are controlling, mean, manipulative and abusive in relationships as well. But nowadays mean, bad, stupid and controlling women can blame it all on the man.
Love alone is not sufficient to make a marriage work.
Divorce is not good for children. Moving from one house to another constantly is not good for children. Bringing other men and women into their lives is not good for children. The fact that you are "happy" "fulfilled" "in love" does not mean it is good for your children.
Being raised in childcare is not good for children. I know I'm going to get flack for this but I know this. I know this from my own experience, I know this from what I see around me, I know this from people who work in day care. Okay you are the exception and you can write in the comments about how wonderfully your child is doing in daycare. I still know what I know.
If only we could get someone more compassionate, and less judgmental and mean (and now racist) than Dr. Laura on the radio to say these things. But then, of course no one would listen because the reason most people listen to her is that they like to listen to her yelling at and humiliating other people. She thinks she's so successful because she's helping people. She's so successful because we live in a culture of voyeurism. The irony is that her show contributes to (and profits from) the very ugliness in this culture that she likes to decry.